The Worthiness Gauge

Worthiness is a tricky yet pervasive underlying pattern that is coming up more and more as people step into their power.

"Who am I to be making this kind of money?"

"Who do I think I am receiving these messages from the Universe?"

"How can I trust myself to correctly translate everything that I am feeling the urge to do?"

You see, trust and worthiness can come hand in hand in some of these patterns. I am not of value unless I prove myself. I can't trust that I can receive this without doing something to prove I am worth of receiving it. Oof. Do you feel that?

It's kind of like a twisted self-sabotage. I don't feel worthy of this and so I am not even going to try. But the kicker is everyone's worthiness glass ceiling - or the level of action of which they feel worthy of taking - is subjective and can vary depending on what the "thing" is. I have no problem cashing my check for the hours that I work because I put in my time. But in this analogy, time = money and we are slowly getting away from that in the New Earth frequency. My unique soul gifts are different than someone else's and the offers that I put out there are an exchange of energy, not time. Money is just energy; a currency of exchange. But what happens when there is not regulated expectation of time = money and instead it comes down to my worth. How much am I worth doing what I do?

The foundations of worthiness can be traced back to our younger selves. They create the baseline of how worthy they felt by the interactions with their external environment (for better or for worse). So in those terms, your worthiness gauge may have been created by a 5 year old that was learning behaviour from parents who were also stuck in their own trauma.

So now that we know, what do we do? Well, we validate that little person; their emotions, their memories, and create a trust with them that it's safe to work in a different way. To rewire this pathway, I've been seeing it as crossing the street with my kids. I look both ways and grab their hand. They trust me that 1) it's safe to cross and 2) the pathway on the other side of the street is where we need to be. Cultivating trust and safety to facilitate the shift is paramount and the only way to create sustainable shifts. I do this quite regularly in my intuitive healing sessions.

Now that the gears are turning and self-reflection is starting, I will leave you with some journal prompts to go a bit deeper.

• Unpacking inherited beliefs around money and worth: Think about how your parents or caregivers spoke about money, success, or abundance when you were growing up. How did they tie money or material wealth to self-worth? How have those conversations or behaviors shaped your own beliefs around your worthiness to receive or have money?

• Energy of money in your life today: When you think about money, do you feel a sense of ease or tension? Reflect on the beliefs you currently hold about money and how they connect to your personal worth. How does your energy around money reflect your sense of being deserving of it? Are there places where you feel blocked, unworthy, or guilty about having financial abundance?

• Rewriting your relationship with worthiness and money: If you could shift your beliefs around money and worth, how would you envision a new relationship with it? How can you create space for a mindset where money flows easily and naturally into your life, without feeling unworthy of it? What small steps can you take today to start undoing old patterns and claim your worthiness to receive financial abundance?

We discuss this more in my Inner Oracle membership community where community meets spiritual development and cultivation of inner knowing. If you are looking for support as you unlock your worthiness gauge, I encourage you to check it out <3